Since the singles scene came into existence, nightclubs have been considered the go-to place for single people to meet. Heralded as some sort of dating mecca, clubs are supposed to be the best place to go to approach single women who are looking for a date. The truth is, clubs aren't all they're cracked up to be.

First and foremost, how about a news flash? Only men see clubs as somewhere to go and “pull” women. Women see clubbing as a social affair, a way to get out with their girlfriends and party or dance. They know men will be there – and they love the attention – but they usually don't go to clubs just to meet men. That's the big difference. Men go to clubs to meet women, not the other way around.

Since they're just there to have a good time, many women hope they won't meet a man at the club. Really! They just want to be left alone. They put up a mental barrier, and make the decision to avoid any men that approach them. Women put on their game faces before they even set foot in the club, to avoid spending the whole night getting harassed by some desperate guy. This means the odds are stacked against you, because now – just to get her interested – you have to talk her into getting rid of that mental barrier.

Why put yourself through all that? Wouldn't you rather talk to a woman that's actually interested in what you have to say? If you have to spend the first 20 minutes of a conversation convincing her to give you the time of day, you're barking up the wrong tree. Stop wasting your time and try a different approach!

Think about it: when's the last time you heard of two people who met in a club getting married – or even getting into a serious relationship? It just doesn't work that way most of the time. There's a reason why romantic comedies always show couples meeting by bumping into each other in the supermarket and other chance meetings. The reason? Because that's how it happens. People meet their future partners in the checkout line, at the bookstore, and in chance meetings when no one's got their game face on. When you get out of the nightclub and start trying to approach women in other situations, it actually works.